Bringing Joy http://bringinnjoy.blog.com Wed, 08 Apr 2009 11:59:49 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2-bleeding Exuberant joy http://bringinnjoy.blog.com/2009/04/08/exuberant-joy/ http://bringinnjoy.blog.com/2009/04/08/exuberant-joy/#comments Wed, 08 Apr 2009 11:59:49 +0000 andrewemeade What is exuberant joy? It is the idea that you are moving forward in life without the same struggles of yesterday or is it more marked than that? Could it be the birth of a new baby? So how long does that exuberant joy get to last? Here’s the thing about not being able to identify what exuberant joy really is. If you can’t identify it then you can’t decide to feel it. Exuberant joy isn’t something that simply happens to you. If you aren’t even open to it then you won’t ever be open to it. And if you aren’t open to it then you won’t be able to bring it into your life. There is a reason why we have to be able to use basic emotional identifiers in order to feel the emotions that we want to feel. Without knowing what it is we are likely to mislabel it, redirect it, or even become fearful of it.

Exuberant joy is an overwhelming emotion that is filled with happiness and peace, like the tears of happiness that can’t be contained. When you feel it you know that the entire world is at your mercy if even for just one moment. Once you feel it, you know that you can’t be wary of feeling it again, and you embrace it and even seek it out. But without that first moment where you identified it, you would be hard pressed to find it and feel it again. Exuberant joy is pure bliss, and it is a bliss that is well worth feeling even when it feels risky.

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What is exuberant joy? It is the idea that you are moving forward in life without the same struggles of yesterday or is it more marked than that? Could it be the birth of a new baby? So how long does that exuberant joy get to last? Here’s the thing about not being able to identify what exuberant joy really is. If you can’t identify it then you can’t decide to feel it. Exuberant joy isn’t something that simply happens to you. If you aren’t even open to it then you won’t ever be open to it. And if you aren’t open to it then you won’t be able to bring it into your life. There is a reason why we have to be able to use basic emotional identifiers in order to feel the emotions that we want to feel. Without knowing what it is we are likely to mislabel it, redirect it, or even become fearful of it.

Exuberant joy is an overwhelming emotion that is filled with happiness and peace, like the tears of happiness that can’t be contained. When you feel it you know that the entire world is at your mercy if even for just one moment. Once you feel it, you know that you can’t be wary of feeling it again, and you embrace it and even seek it out. But without that first moment where you identified it, you would be hard pressed to find it and feel it again. Exuberant joy is pure bliss, and it is a bliss that is well worth feeling even when it feels risky.

]]> http://bringinnjoy.blog.com/2009/04/08/exuberant-joy/feed/ 0 Joy is not a sin http://bringinnjoy.blog.com/2009/03/27/joy-is-not-a-sin/ http://bringinnjoy.blog.com/2009/03/27/joy-is-not-a-sin/#comments Fri, 27 Mar 2009 10:21:52 +0000 andrewemeade There is no denying that there is sorrow in the world and there is no denying that we all have felt extreme sorrow in our time. However, we can still experience joy after sorrow. Joy is not an insult to loss and it does not mean that the struggles of today are not important. But making more out of them and inflicting misery upon ourselves does not diminish or reinforce the righteousness of our sorrows. Most of us feel that if we feel some sort of joy in the midst of sorrow we are somehow allowing the “other side” to score some imagined points. The other side, the side which we believe inflicts sorrow upon the world, is not an entity. It is a happening and it can not score points because you experience joy.Joy is not a sin and neither is moving beyond sorrow. We hold onto sorrow because somehow we wish to feel bad about the situation and we feel it somehow makes us more real and more human. After all, if you show up at a funeral with a great deal of joy people might question your sanity. But you have every right to show up at a funeral filled with joy. Being filled with joy in no way means that you do not care or that you do not feel for the sorrow. It simply means that you are able to put your joy ahead of your sorrow and still enjoy life. Life is hard enough without forcing ourselves to feel any unnecessary sorrow. Joy feels better to embrace and many people eventually opt for the joy, without apology.

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There is no denying that there is sorrow in the world and there is no denying that we all have felt extreme sorrow in our time. However, we can still experience joy after sorrow. Joy is not an insult to loss and it does not mean that the struggles of today are not important. But making more out of them and inflicting misery upon ourselves does not diminish or reinforce the righteousness of our sorrows. Most of us feel that if we feel some sort of joy in the midst of sorrow we are somehow allowing the “other side” to score some imagined points. The other side, the side which we believe inflicts sorrow upon the world, is not an entity. It is a happening and it can not score points because you experience joy.Joy is not a sin and neither is moving beyond sorrow. We hold onto sorrow because somehow we wish to feel bad about the situation and we feel it somehow makes us more real and more human. After all, if you show up at a funeral with a great deal of joy people might question your sanity. But you have every right to show up at a funeral filled with joy. Being filled with joy in no way means that you do not care or that you do not feel for the sorrow. It simply means that you are able to put your joy ahead of your sorrow and still enjoy life. Life is hard enough without forcing ourselves to feel any unnecessary sorrow. Joy feels better to embrace and many people eventually opt for the joy, without apology.

]]> http://bringinnjoy.blog.com/2009/03/27/joy-is-not-a-sin/feed/ 0 Appreciate Every Moment of Your Life http://bringinnjoy.blog.com/2009/01/30/appreciate-every-moment-of-your-life/ http://bringinnjoy.blog.com/2009/01/30/appreciate-every-moment-of-your-life/#comments Fri, 30 Jan 2009 18:16:08 +0000 andrewemeade He went to bed and put the clothes to other things, taken from mortician. His wife died. When he turned to me, he said: «Nothing is saved for special cases every day that you live, this is particularly the case».
I still think of these words ... They changed my life. Today, I read more and less make orders. I was shocked on the veranda and enjoy the view, not paying attention to weed the garden. I spend more time with his family and friends, and less at work. I realized that life - a collection of experiences, which are valued ...
Suggestions such as: "One" or "One day, driven out of my vocabulary. If it is worth it, I want to see, hear and do things now and here. I'm not quite sure that would make the wife of my friend, if she knew that it would not be tomorrow. I think she called to the family and close friends. Maybe she called a couple of old friends, to oneself or to apologize for the old quarrel.
This is a small weak case that would hinder me if I knew that my days are numbered. I would be irritating, if I did not see the friends with whom I am one of those days should have been contacted. Be irritating, if I had not written a letter, I wanted to write one of these days. Annoyances, if I had not so often told his friends how much I love them.
Now I have to keep, not to delay, was not anything that would bring joy to our lives and smile. I tell myself that day, everyone, and every minute - is something special... ]]> My friend opened the drawer chest and his wife out a package wrapped in silk paper. It was not just a bag, a bag of clothes. He threw the bag and looked at the silk and lace. “That is what I bought it when we were the first time in New York. It was 8 or 9 years ago. It never was. She wanted to save it for special cases. And now, I think the time has come.”
He went to bed and put the clothes to other things, taken from mortician. His wife died. When he turned to me, he said: «Nothing is saved for special cases every day that you live, this is particularly the case».
I still think of these words … They changed my life. Today, I read more and less make orders. I was shocked on the veranda and enjoy the view, not paying attention to weed the garden. I spend more time with his family and friends, and less at work. I realized that life – a collection of experiences, which are valued …
Suggestions such as: “One” or “One day, driven out of my vocabulary. If it is worth it, I want to see, hear and do things now and here. I’m not quite sure that would make the wife of my friend, if she knew that it would not be tomorrow. I think she called to the family and close friends. Maybe she called a couple of old friends, to oneself or to apologize for the old quarrel.
This is a small weak case that would hinder me if I knew that my days are numbered. I would be irritating, if I did not see the friends with whom I am one of those days should have been contacted. Be irritating, if I had not written a letter, I wanted to write one of these days. Annoyances, if I had not so often told his friends how much I love them.
Now I have to keep, not to delay, was not anything that would bring joy to our lives and smile. I tell myself that day, everyone, and every minute – is something special…
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